Why you're not good enough

We all know the reason we suck, right? Not as a generalisation, not as in an age group or a gender or a particular demographic. Why, we, as individuals, as ordinary galloping housewives, we know exactly what our failings are.

 We know because we berate ourselves for these things every single day.

I’m not fit because I’m lazy.

I can’t learn my dressage tests because I’m thick.

I can’t win new clients because I don’t like networking.

I procrastinate too much to write the novel.

I’m too judgemental to be a coach.

I’ll never be a good rider because I hate getting up early.

I don’t have the coordination to teach my horse the flying changes.

I like my privacy too much to help refugees.

I can’t motivate myself to complete a course.

We know these things about our personalities, we know these things about our capabilities, we know these things about our preferences.

They’re part of what makes us who we are. We think we need to change these personality traits before we can do something, achieve something, learn something, be something. 

What if that was all a lie?

What if was possible to be, do, have, anything you like - without changing your attitude, without finding a magical stash of willpower, without finding the time bush or the money tree.

There’s a lie told about so many people who are successful. A lie about the amount of effort they put in, the amount of drive that initiated the process, the amount of determination they had from the outset. A lie about how they were somehow better than us.

Sure, some of them developed some beneficial habits along the journey, but none of them were superhuman to begin with.

I can tell you one thing for sure, the galloping housewife has no abundance of get up and go. She’s allergic to hustle and hard work. She does stuff, for sure, but it’s not the result of some magical inner force. Or rather it’s the recognition of her particular mix of characteristics and challenges and then working with those traits rather than trying to be someone she will never be.

You don’t need to change who you are to change where you are in this world.

If you'd like to learn how to uses what makes you you, then Sort Your Shit Out is what you want to be a part of. 

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